Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Mom shaming is a thing. But what about mom support?

Mom shaming is a real thing. I’ve only been a mom for a month, but I’m guessing that moms have been judging and gossiping about each other since the beginning of time. And I’m sure it’s part of human nature. We’ve all done it whether we want to admit it or not. However, in today’s social media crazed world moms are judged under a microscope like never before - #momshaming. 

Thousands of articles exist on this very topic. There is even a “Mom Shaming” topic tag on The Huffington Post website with articles such as “5 Mom-Shaming Trends That Need to Stop Now,” “Is Motherhood Where Sexy Goes to Die?” “Mom Shaming Reaches New Low in Wake of Gorilla Incident,” and the list goes on.

But what about #momsupport? Obviously, mom support is also a real thing, but unfortunately I think we are more apt to hearing and reading about mom shaming.

The day I shared my pregnancy on Facebook, a friend invited me to a new mom Facebook group, which has been one of the best educational tools I’ve had throughout this journey. I don’t post or ask questions very frequently, but it’s been amazing to watch how these fellow moms interact with and support each other. Many of whom I assume don’t even know each other. I’ve even experienced a level of support from these women after posting some of these blogs in the group.

And since becoming a mom myself all those weeks ago fellow moms have been coming out of the woodwork to show their support. It’s been truly amazing and awe-inspiring to receive this level of support during these “100 days of darkness.” Here’s just a small glimpse into the kind of support I have received from old friends and new friends, from people I haven’t heard from since high school and even women I’ve never met before!!

I won’t name names, but you know who you are. I hope by sharing this it encourages other moms to start and even continue offering support to moms in need whether that’s offering to babysit, bring a meal, or even just sit on your couch and watch Food Network with you.

“I'd love to drop a meal or two off to you in a week or so and check in and see how you're doing.”

“I wanted to let you know that [we] would be more than happy to help out anytime Jeff and you need a night out or a couple hours to yourselves.”

“We are still exclusively breastfeeding so feel free to ask me any questions about that as well. Or if you just want to get together and talk to another adult! I know being alone all day with a babe isn't always the easiest.”

“You are a really good mom. Michael is lucky to have you and Jeff as parents who care so much.”

“Just wanted to reach out and let you know that if you ever need someone to bounce questions off of (no matter how ridiculous) I'm happy to help. I am by no means a parenting expert but have been in your shoes and I've found thus far that like-minded mom friends have been my best resource for questions.”

“Please know that if you ever need a hand...a nap, laundry done, a meal made, a BREAK...I'm not too far away and always willing. I remember those days like it were yesterday, and I couldn't have done it without help.”

“YOU'RE DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT! I'm not too far away and would be happy to help out so that you can take a break, a shower, a nap...whatever! I'll even cook you up some yummy food. I know exactly what you're going through and couldn't have managed without the support of my friends and family.”

I have been blown away by all those who have reached out to me in the spirit of motherhood. THANK YOU!!! It really is inspiring…and please know that I’m also here to offer a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on any time. #momsupport